Mommy Guilt

-

As moms, even when we're doing everything "right," we tend to feel an irrational "guilt" that we're not good enough. It's tragic,  really, that most poor parenting comes from our own insecurities and unreasonable guilt.

 Even when there's truly an issue with our parenting,  that irrational guilt or thinking we're the worst will keep us from seeking outside help. Not just from fear of being judged, but because we're already judging ourselves.

Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

The Things We Keep Inside

-
Childhood is hard. Adulthood is hard. Being a human being is hard. Being a DECENT human being is even harder.  It's impossible to go through life completely unscathed... no one can do it. Every single moment, every single experience we have... shapes the people that we become. This can be to the better or for the worse. I don't believe that people are born "bad"  or good either one... I think they are all born "neutral" and then their experiences and basic personalities shape them into the people they become. For most of us, we're just you're average, garden variety good person. In my case, I'm a pretty good person who got handed several bad hands in life. I ended up being abused most of my life and now have to deal with the aftermath of being abused, which includes PTSD, dissociative disorder due to Complex Trauma and a host of other mental and emotional issues. The average person walking past me on the street would never be able to see or gu...
Read more

Vision to Village: Creating an Intentional Community

-
We dream of intentional living, but how do we make it real? First: collect your circle. Who’s in? Write a shared mission: do you want to grow food, educate each other, live off-grid, celebrate spiritual rituals? Put words to values. Next: meet regularly—kitchen table chats, outdoor walks, virtual sessions—to nurture clarity and cohesion. Step two: land & layout. Urban, suburban, rural—each has pros and cons. Look for a place with common space potential: a shared garden, a fire circle, indoor gathering rooms. Think evergreen solar exposure, accessible public transport, local schools. Third: design for coexistence. Shared meals: who cooks and when? Childcare rota: who’s awake when? Elder care: can you foster intergenerational connection? Maintenance: who mows lawns or fixes leaky roofs? Write the schedule, but test it flexibly—regular retrospectives let you adjust. Fourth: build your economy. Mutual aid thrives best when it’s reciprocal. Have a shared fund for tools, seeds, and suppl...
Read more

Setting Goals and Making Plans

-
Almost two months ago, I hit the reset button on my life. I left the town I'd been living in for almost three years, quit a job I'd been at for a year and moved two hours away to a town where I'd always wanted to live, but never quite got around to it. I'm staying in a travel trailer and living in a peaceful and quiet place... I call it my "Gypsy Trailer." In the last two months, I've been doing a lot of self-work and trauma-healing. It's been very difficult emotionally and mentally, but the rewards have been many. I have discovered that I am a lot stronger than I thought I was, I'm getting my focus back and I'm not starting out each day with a massive amount of dread or anxiety. Sure, my sleep schedule seems to have literally reversed itself and so I have my days and nights mixed up. BUT, I'm still making progress and with the two youngest kids not being in school (they are 2 and 3), our schedule isn't a massive issue right now. W...
Read more